Life's Balance Beam
Have you ever watched children walk along a curb,Ugg Bailey Button, or along the railway ties lining the local playground? They walk with their arms straight out,5803 Ugg Bailey Button Navy Boots, placing one foot in front of the other, as they teeter from side-to-side. They have to stay focused in order to keep their balance. As adults,5838 Ugg Bailey Button Bomber Jacket Chestnut Boots,5815 Ugg Classic Tall Grey Boots, we also need to focus on balance in our lives or we may end up falling off - not off a curb or a railway tie, but off our path in life.
I know what you are thinking: "Who has time to think about balance? I have enough to think about. I have to work, clean the house, do laundry, be a good friend, volunteer at church, parent my children, and find time for my marriage." I understand. However, I would like to encourage you to take a few minutes to read this article - and maybe to reflect on what balance would look like for you.
Personally, I need a little from all areas of my life. It is important for me to exercise and watch what I eat,you'll be known for those skills rather than your years., and it is also important for me to have fun and express my creativity. My career as a life coach is my passion,5803 Ugg Bailey Button Grey Boots, and I am also passionate about spending time with my family. My church nourishes my spirit; spending time with my husband every day nourishes our marriage.
Finding balance in life is different for everyone. Some of us want to slow life down a little and lighten our load. Others may love the fast-paced lifestyle of the "Energizer Bunny," as they go-go-go. It is important for each of us to think about how we want to spend our lives and about what is most important to us as individuals. If you find yourself driven by circumstances and not exercising your power of choice, you are probably living "out of balance". For instance, how often to you hear yourself say, "I can't, I have to, or I need to?" Are you giving up your right to choose? Do you insist on doing things a certain way without ever asking why or looking for a better way?
Balance in our lives enables us to make choices that are right for us - for the right reasons. We learn to say "no" to things we don't want to do. Or to change our attitude about those things that really must be done. We become willing to look honestly at what is not working in our lives. For some,UGG 5838, it may be as simple as handing over household chores to a housekeeper in order to pursue a hobby. Others may find that seeking out a biking partner helps motivate them to exercise. Keeping balance may require saying no to a child's extracurricular activity to make time for a family night. Trying out new ideas one at a time can help each of us achieve the balance and fulfillment that may be missing from our lives.
It is important to remember that balance is a process and is constantly changing, just as our lives are constantly changing. Balance is not some static goal that we achieve and then move on. We achieve balance in the moment, understanding that in the next moment everything may change.
Look at the balance in your life over time. If life seems smooth and fulfilling, you are probably on the right track. If, however, your road through life seems bumpy and you are often unhappy, making changes to help you move towards greater balance could be the answer for you.
Monday, December 10, 2012
Thursday, December 6, 2012
and camping boots and shoes. Of all major brands
8 Biggest Brands for Women's Outdoor and Hiking Boots
Women's hiking and outdoor boots is a relatively large category of shoes with at least 50 different major brands making outdoor boots. Each brand has its advantages and disadvantages. Discussed in this article are the top brands in the outdoor and hiking category and the price range for each brand.Vasque - Vasque's entire product line is focused on outdoor,5815 Ugg Classic Tall Grey Boots, hiking, and camping boots and shoes. Of all major brands, Vasque contributes the most styles to the outdoor and hiking cateogry. Prices range from between $80 and $170 with most boots pricing around $125 retail.New Balance - New Balance is a major footwear retailer that makes all kinds of apparel, including outdoor footwear for men and women. Most outdoor footwear is trail running shoe styles rather than rugged boots. Prices range from $65 to $112 with most pricing around $70 a pair.Lowa - Women's Lowa outdoor boots are less focused on hiking and more oriented for rugged outdoor wear. Boot and shoes have deep tread with strong soles. Prices range from $160 to $320 with most styles falling around $200 a pair.Merrell - Like New Balance, Merrell footwear makes many different styles of shoes, and contributes many new models to each style every single year. Merrell is the second biggest contributor to the outdoor hiking category. Most styles have tread similar to a running shoe but with an outdoor look. Prices range from $65 to $135 with most pricing around $90 a pair.The North Face - Having one of the most diverse offerings of outdoor footwear for women, The North Face footwear include closed toe sandals with a slip resistant sole to hiking shoes with deep claw like tread. Plus, The North Face has the advantage of being some of the least expensive options with shoe prices ranging from $65 to $105 with most falling around $80 a pair.
Women's hiking and outdoor boots is a relatively large category of shoes with at least 50 different major brands making outdoor boots. Each brand has its advantages and disadvantages. Discussed in this article are the top brands in the outdoor and hiking category and the price range for each brand.Vasque - Vasque's entire product line is focused on outdoor,5815 Ugg Classic Tall Grey Boots, hiking, and camping boots and shoes. Of all major brands, Vasque contributes the most styles to the outdoor and hiking cateogry. Prices range from between $80 and $170 with most boots pricing around $125 retail.New Balance - New Balance is a major footwear retailer that makes all kinds of apparel, including outdoor footwear for men and women. Most outdoor footwear is trail running shoe styles rather than rugged boots. Prices range from $65 to $112 with most pricing around $70 a pair.Lowa - Women's Lowa outdoor boots are less focused on hiking and more oriented for rugged outdoor wear. Boot and shoes have deep tread with strong soles. Prices range from $160 to $320 with most styles falling around $200 a pair.Merrell - Like New Balance, Merrell footwear makes many different styles of shoes, and contributes many new models to each style every single year. Merrell is the second biggest contributor to the outdoor hiking category. Most styles have tread similar to a running shoe but with an outdoor look. Prices range from $65 to $135 with most pricing around $90 a pair.The North Face - Having one of the most diverse offerings of outdoor footwear for women, The North Face footwear include closed toe sandals with a slip resistant sole to hiking shoes with deep claw like tread. Plus, The North Face has the advantage of being some of the least expensive options with shoe prices ranging from $65 to $105 with most falling around $80 a pair.
Wednesday, December 5, 2012
from one individual to the next
Top Tip For Making A Great Speech by Roseanna Leaton
Great public speaking is all about confidence; the confidence to stand up in a room full of people who you don't know, and deliver a speech with eloquence and gusto. It's not easy - without effective mental rehearsal you may become short of breath, experience butterflies in your stomach, forget what you were going to talk about or even freeze completely. Some unfortunate people have even been known to faint.
Some people are naturally accomplished orators, who not only speak with passion and wit, but thoroughly enjoy being in the limelight. They have the ability to make every single person in the audience feel that they are communicating almost solely with you, and compel your full attention,5815 Ugg Classic Tall Grey Boots. Others prefer to stand back, to mingle amongst the crowd and shy away from the spot light. How can humans be so very different, from one individual to the next? We all have the same individual components after all. We are all born with the capacity to learn, develop and achieve almost unlimited things.
At birth, the human brain is not fully formed. A template is there which adapts to the environment and culture to which we are born. We learn through experience, be it our native tongue or a familiarity with standing up in front of our peers and taking centre stage. We learn whether something feels good to us or not depending upon each individual experience. Before the age of 10 we usually have a reasonably well developed sense of who we are and what we are comfortable with or not.
>From there on in, we tend to live our lives within the limitations of these core beliefs and expectations. If we have had bad experiences or no experience of "performing" in front of a crowd, the tendency for most is to shy away from such circumstances. On the other hand, those who have had good experiences have the budding confidence to stand up there again and again, building greater degrees of confidence along the way. Good experiences, repeated time and again lead to comfort and confidence.
But if you haven't had such good and powerful experiences, you don't have to stay the same way. You can learn to overcome your shyness, fear or trepidation and think differently and feel differently. You have the capacity to feel just as confident and comfortable as the best orators in the world. The key is in knowing how to mentally rehearse your speech again and again so that you effectively "trick" your inner mind into believing that you have been in this situation many times before and so you feel the comfort of this experience and the confidence which accompanies it.
Your mind does not know the difference between something which is real and something which is vividly imagined. This is fact. Thus by vividly imagining yourself making a great speech and receiving positive feedback from the crowd you in effect train your brain to feel comfortable and happy about such events. I do not just mean thinking about your speech and imagining it to be word perfect, I mean that you should really see yourself there, to step right into a movie in your minds' eye, to hear your own voice, loud and clear, to feel the confidence in your stance, to feel the warm response of the audience.
A thought without an emotion will have no effect. Your effective mental rehearsal will involve all of your senses; you will be powerfully aware and fully absorbed in the sights, sounds and feelings associated with your imagery. It is this vivid detail and emotion which embeds the "experience" within your psyche. It is this detailed emotional input which makes it "true". And as you visualize your speech again and again and again, it is as if you have already "been there and done that" all of those many times..and so public speaking truly feels like second nature to you.
There is another way in which you can enhance the effect of such visualization. You can use hypnosis to relax and access your subconscious mind and then run through your visualizations in this state of relaxed focus. In this way your visualizations will take on more color and texture, more vividness and reality, as your creative mind is unleashed. Hypnotic suggestions can also be made to further increase confidence and empower you to an ever more compelling performance.
What are you waiting for? You can start visualizing right now and you will find you get better and better at it, and you can get hypnosis downloads to make your visualizations more powerfully compelling and therefore effective.
Roseanna Leaton, specialist in hypnosis downloads for hypnosis confidence
Great public speaking is all about confidence; the confidence to stand up in a room full of people who you don't know, and deliver a speech with eloquence and gusto. It's not easy - without effective mental rehearsal you may become short of breath, experience butterflies in your stomach, forget what you were going to talk about or even freeze completely. Some unfortunate people have even been known to faint.
Some people are naturally accomplished orators, who not only speak with passion and wit, but thoroughly enjoy being in the limelight. They have the ability to make every single person in the audience feel that they are communicating almost solely with you, and compel your full attention,5815 Ugg Classic Tall Grey Boots. Others prefer to stand back, to mingle amongst the crowd and shy away from the spot light. How can humans be so very different, from one individual to the next? We all have the same individual components after all. We are all born with the capacity to learn, develop and achieve almost unlimited things.
At birth, the human brain is not fully formed. A template is there which adapts to the environment and culture to which we are born. We learn through experience, be it our native tongue or a familiarity with standing up in front of our peers and taking centre stage. We learn whether something feels good to us or not depending upon each individual experience. Before the age of 10 we usually have a reasonably well developed sense of who we are and what we are comfortable with or not.
>From there on in, we tend to live our lives within the limitations of these core beliefs and expectations. If we have had bad experiences or no experience of "performing" in front of a crowd, the tendency for most is to shy away from such circumstances. On the other hand, those who have had good experiences have the budding confidence to stand up there again and again, building greater degrees of confidence along the way. Good experiences, repeated time and again lead to comfort and confidence.
But if you haven't had such good and powerful experiences, you don't have to stay the same way. You can learn to overcome your shyness, fear or trepidation and think differently and feel differently. You have the capacity to feel just as confident and comfortable as the best orators in the world. The key is in knowing how to mentally rehearse your speech again and again so that you effectively "trick" your inner mind into believing that you have been in this situation many times before and so you feel the comfort of this experience and the confidence which accompanies it.
Your mind does not know the difference between something which is real and something which is vividly imagined. This is fact. Thus by vividly imagining yourself making a great speech and receiving positive feedback from the crowd you in effect train your brain to feel comfortable and happy about such events. I do not just mean thinking about your speech and imagining it to be word perfect, I mean that you should really see yourself there, to step right into a movie in your minds' eye, to hear your own voice, loud and clear, to feel the confidence in your stance, to feel the warm response of the audience.
A thought without an emotion will have no effect. Your effective mental rehearsal will involve all of your senses; you will be powerfully aware and fully absorbed in the sights, sounds and feelings associated with your imagery. It is this vivid detail and emotion which embeds the "experience" within your psyche. It is this detailed emotional input which makes it "true". And as you visualize your speech again and again and again, it is as if you have already "been there and done that" all of those many times..and so public speaking truly feels like second nature to you.
There is another way in which you can enhance the effect of such visualization. You can use hypnosis to relax and access your subconscious mind and then run through your visualizations in this state of relaxed focus. In this way your visualizations will take on more color and texture, more vividness and reality, as your creative mind is unleashed. Hypnotic suggestions can also be made to further increase confidence and empower you to an ever more compelling performance.
What are you waiting for? You can start visualizing right now and you will find you get better and better at it, and you can get hypnosis downloads to make your visualizations more powerfully compelling and therefore effective.
Roseanna Leaton, specialist in hypnosis downloads for hypnosis confidence
Tuesday, December 4, 2012
Shopping For Discount Ugg Brand Boots
Shopping For Discount Ugg Brand Boots
Ugg boots are a must for all those fashionable teenagers nowadays. This, of course, does not mean that only those of a certain age or sex are suitable for them. Ugg boots are manufactured for women, men and children too and offer something for everyone with a wide range of styles and colours,5815 Ugg Classic Tall Grey Boots. Although these sheepskin boots with their inner wool lining that were primarily produced in Australia and New Zealand, this boot style can now be seen all over the world now. Originally worn by people working in rural areas who had easy access to the materials and could make these boots any time they needed them, these sheepskin boots were also favoured by air force pilots in the wars to keep warm at high altitudes. More than twenty years ago, the Ugg boots were brought to Cornwall by travellers and the variety of such boots that are still manufactured in the area are called Celt boots. Ugg boots are now without a doubt the most comfortable option for casual everyday wear and are also very easy to maintain as well. They can be worn perfectly with jeans, tucked in or not, mini skirts and leggings, while the nice colours they are available in makes it easy to match any kind of Ugg boots you have purchased to your style. Another positive that Ugg boots give to those that wear them is related to the characteristics of sheepskin. Warm and soft to the touch, the sheepskin takes the shape of the foot, keeping it warm and removing any trace of moisture. That is the reason why these type of boots can be worn without socks and the effect is nothing short of amazing. They provide more warmth than a pair of regular leather boots and a pair of woollen socks when worn together.
Ugg boots are a must for all those fashionable teenagers nowadays. This, of course, does not mean that only those of a certain age or sex are suitable for them. Ugg boots are manufactured for women, men and children too and offer something for everyone with a wide range of styles and colours,5815 Ugg Classic Tall Grey Boots. Although these sheepskin boots with their inner wool lining that were primarily produced in Australia and New Zealand, this boot style can now be seen all over the world now. Originally worn by people working in rural areas who had easy access to the materials and could make these boots any time they needed them, these sheepskin boots were also favoured by air force pilots in the wars to keep warm at high altitudes. More than twenty years ago, the Ugg boots were brought to Cornwall by travellers and the variety of such boots that are still manufactured in the area are called Celt boots. Ugg boots are now without a doubt the most comfortable option for casual everyday wear and are also very easy to maintain as well. They can be worn perfectly with jeans, tucked in or not, mini skirts and leggings, while the nice colours they are available in makes it easy to match any kind of Ugg boots you have purchased to your style. Another positive that Ugg boots give to those that wear them is related to the characteristics of sheepskin. Warm and soft to the touch, the sheepskin takes the shape of the foot, keeping it warm and removing any trace of moisture. That is the reason why these type of boots can be worn without socks and the effect is nothing short of amazing. They provide more warmth than a pair of regular leather boots and a pair of woollen socks when worn together.
Monday, December 3, 2012
Although boots had been already used by soldiers and cowmen ahead today
The Comeback of Womanhoods's Forge Western Boots
Although boots had been already used by soldiers and cowmen ahead today, a lot of adult females are seen bearing boots and they are bearing them in flair and with a lot of style. Long after punchers have melted down, cowboy boots and clothes remain. Boots footwear has been common in the style world especially in the 1960s and 1970s,5815 Ugg Classic Tall Grey Boots, but during the subsequent part of the twentieth century, the popularity slimly cut. But today, women's style Western boots is making a comeback, and this time with a lot more designs to offer. There are so many variations of womanhoods's fashion Western boots useable in the market, and among them have sharp heels, tapered heels, platform soles,Genealogy, and sharp toes. style in a Boot adult females's style Western boots are fast right an ikon today and it could be here to remain for a while. The elegance yet elusive impact of a pair of boots is fascinating so that more and more fair sexes are trying to invest in them and see to it that they only get super adult females's fashion Western boots. For soft and grand social occasions, you can expect that womanhoods's fashion Western boots are acceptable,Programming. Dress boots are very nice to be worn for the office since it gives a woman the professional look and a lot of admiration. On the other hand, casual boots can be appropriately used for other open-air and fast activity and can readily metamorphose a demure look into a rocky one. Why womanhoods Love bearing Boots There are a lot of reasons out why womanhoods's fashion Western boots are a hit. Aside from being historically meaning, the tall look that is exuded by the wearer makes them hot and magnetic. A woman who wears boots look a little longer especially when paired up with equally long pair of jeans or skirt, very attractive and gorgeous, especially for the men's eyes. womanhoods's style Western boots are not only popular, but they provide comfort and sturdiness, too. They are made of top quality material so that they can be practiced even on a day-to-day basis. Most of the boot footwear are easy to use and very small on the toes. It is so spacious knowing that you do not sacrifice your fashion sense even for a bit when bearing adult females's style Western boots.
Although boots had been already used by soldiers and cowmen ahead today, a lot of adult females are seen bearing boots and they are bearing them in flair and with a lot of style. Long after punchers have melted down, cowboy boots and clothes remain. Boots footwear has been common in the style world especially in the 1960s and 1970s,5815 Ugg Classic Tall Grey Boots, but during the subsequent part of the twentieth century, the popularity slimly cut. But today, women's style Western boots is making a comeback, and this time with a lot more designs to offer. There are so many variations of womanhoods's fashion Western boots useable in the market, and among them have sharp heels, tapered heels, platform soles,Genealogy, and sharp toes. style in a Boot adult females's style Western boots are fast right an ikon today and it could be here to remain for a while. The elegance yet elusive impact of a pair of boots is fascinating so that more and more fair sexes are trying to invest in them and see to it that they only get super adult females's fashion Western boots. For soft and grand social occasions, you can expect that womanhoods's fashion Western boots are acceptable,Programming. Dress boots are very nice to be worn for the office since it gives a woman the professional look and a lot of admiration. On the other hand, casual boots can be appropriately used for other open-air and fast activity and can readily metamorphose a demure look into a rocky one. Why womanhoods Love bearing Boots There are a lot of reasons out why womanhoods's fashion Western boots are a hit. Aside from being historically meaning, the tall look that is exuded by the wearer makes them hot and magnetic. A woman who wears boots look a little longer especially when paired up with equally long pair of jeans or skirt, very attractive and gorgeous, especially for the men's eyes. womanhoods's style Western boots are not only popular, but they provide comfort and sturdiness, too. They are made of top quality material so that they can be practiced even on a day-to-day basis. Most of the boot footwear are easy to use and very small on the toes. It is so spacious knowing that you do not sacrifice your fashion sense even for a bit when bearing adult females's style Western boots.
Saturday, December 1, 2012
Everybody these days wants to follow the latest trend and fashion
Ugg Boots Are Trendy, Fashionable, And Comfortable
Everybody these days wants to follow the latest trend and fashion, but in order to look fashionable, people often have to compromise with comfort. However, such things are not applicable to ugg boots. They have been very popular over the last few years. They are fashionable, trendy,5815 Ugg Classic Tall Grey Boots,in any business, and comfortable - all at the same time. Even famous personalities like Kate Hudson and Pamela Anderson love to wear them. The best thing about these boots is that despite their big size, they add a kind of elegance to your overall personality. Besides that, they can also keep your feet warm, keeping your look cool even during the coolest season,furry footwear. However. Because of all these tremendous features, they have been enormously successful. Stand Out From The Crowd Ugg boots do not only make you look fashionable and cool, but they can also help you stand out from the fashion-conscious crowd. They make you noticeable, and for good reasons. Since they are very comfortable to wear, you do not have to sacrifice your comfort just in order to look fashionable. Since the late 1970s, these boots have been a favorite choice for surfers and swimmers as well. A Perfect Choice For Both Summer And Winter Many people have the misconception that ugg boots on sale make a suitable choice only during the winter season, which is not true. Because of the sheepskin used in ugg boots,there are more things to consider in choosing the perfect military boots, they do offer considerable thermostatic benefits but since its interior is made of fleecy fibers, they do not overheat your feet. Because of the fleecy fibers, the air circulates easily. That is the reason why people like to wear it during summer also. Therefore, whether it is winter or summer, they are perfect boots for all occasions, as they offer a perfect combination of cooling and warming. It is very important for you to keep in mind that the standard leather that is generally used to make boots may look trendy and cool, but they are not at all comfortable. On the other hand, since even discount ugg boots use the sheepskin material, they provide you comparatively a much higher degree of comfort and still look fashionable.
Everybody these days wants to follow the latest trend and fashion, but in order to look fashionable, people often have to compromise with comfort. However, such things are not applicable to ugg boots. They have been very popular over the last few years. They are fashionable, trendy,5815 Ugg Classic Tall Grey Boots,in any business, and comfortable - all at the same time. Even famous personalities like Kate Hudson and Pamela Anderson love to wear them. The best thing about these boots is that despite their big size, they add a kind of elegance to your overall personality. Besides that, they can also keep your feet warm, keeping your look cool even during the coolest season,furry footwear. However. Because of all these tremendous features, they have been enormously successful. Stand Out From The Crowd Ugg boots do not only make you look fashionable and cool, but they can also help you stand out from the fashion-conscious crowd. They make you noticeable, and for good reasons. Since they are very comfortable to wear, you do not have to sacrifice your comfort just in order to look fashionable. Since the late 1970s, these boots have been a favorite choice for surfers and swimmers as well. A Perfect Choice For Both Summer And Winter Many people have the misconception that ugg boots on sale make a suitable choice only during the winter season, which is not true. Because of the sheepskin used in ugg boots,there are more things to consider in choosing the perfect military boots, they do offer considerable thermostatic benefits but since its interior is made of fleecy fibers, they do not overheat your feet. Because of the fleecy fibers, the air circulates easily. That is the reason why people like to wear it during summer also. Therefore, whether it is winter or summer, they are perfect boots for all occasions, as they offer a perfect combination of cooling and warming. It is very important for you to keep in mind that the standard leather that is generally used to make boots may look trendy and cool, but they are not at all comfortable. On the other hand, since even discount ugg boots use the sheepskin material, they provide you comparatively a much higher degree of comfort and still look fashionable.
Friday, November 30, 2012
if I overwork
Addictions To Work,Although all of us may have periods of doubting whether we deserve work we love and are good at? by Maia Berens
Do "good" workaholics figure out how to love their work so they can still work a lot,the impulse is exactly the same. For others?
I think society defines a workaholic as someone who uses work as an addiction. And addictions are supposed to be about running away from feelings or dealing with feelings in an unhealthy manner.
So what I am asking is am I still a workaholic even though now I love my work,5815 Ugg Classic Tall Grey Boots?
Many years ago I was a financial planner/financial salesperson. I worked at that job addictively. I think the feeling I was running away from with that job was guilt for not working enough and making enough money. What a lose/lose proposition that my ego set up: if I overwork, I don't feel guilty for not working but in order to not feel guilty for not working, I had to work 70-80 hours a week. No matter I hated the job. No matter I had young kids and left them a lot. No matter that although I did make very good money, I didn't have the positive feelings of self worth or consciousness to be able to feel comfortable with it and so it magically disappeared all the time. It was an addiction.
Today, I totally love what I do for a living,with 10 being the most intense or strongest.. I coach people to move from one place in their life to another place they'd rather be. Usually I'm working with them closely as they grow as a person in all areas of their lives from relationships to work to writing or creating other ways and many other aspects of their lives they begin to look at through their new glasses or more self worth and a higher level of self acceptance. Since watching people grow is my favorite activity, I love every minute of it.
Also, my work allows me to teach. I get to watch my own process to see how I have grown or how I wish to grow. I watch my husband, my kids, my friends. I keep learning and teaching. And I get to write about all of this growth and my observations about it.
And yesterday I noticed something about myself. I have a little trouble just doing nothing. I'm fine if I have an activity scheduled over the weekend but just plain do-nothing time, feels uncomfortable.
Could a symptom of workaholism be feeling guilty if I'm not working even on the weekend and even if I love my work?
Another question I have is are negative aspects catchable from our partners? My husband usually appears to feel a little guilty when he isn't working enough. I think I caught it guilt-for-not-working from him.
Or maybe it was the fact that my mother made a very big deal to my sister and I about how hard and how many hours my father worked to take care of us. This, I believe, was her attempt to control us and keep us from asking for too many material things so she wouldn't feel guilty saying no. Additionally, to give it a double whammy, she bitched at my father without cease about his working all the time how it was his way of running away from his family.
Looking back with adult, non-victimy eyes and from many years distance, I think that my mother's impact is the source of my incipient workaholism. Also, as a kid I think I absorbed the righteousness of working a lot. In a certain way it sounded martyrish and even attractive to "sacrifice for your family". I think I thought if I worked and sacrificed, I'd be admired and appreciated.
Oh, what an awful muddle the past's effects are on us!
Do "good" workaholics figure out how to love their work so they can still work a lot,the impulse is exactly the same. For others?
I think society defines a workaholic as someone who uses work as an addiction. And addictions are supposed to be about running away from feelings or dealing with feelings in an unhealthy manner.
So what I am asking is am I still a workaholic even though now I love my work,5815 Ugg Classic Tall Grey Boots?
Many years ago I was a financial planner/financial salesperson. I worked at that job addictively. I think the feeling I was running away from with that job was guilt for not working enough and making enough money. What a lose/lose proposition that my ego set up: if I overwork, I don't feel guilty for not working but in order to not feel guilty for not working, I had to work 70-80 hours a week. No matter I hated the job. No matter I had young kids and left them a lot. No matter that although I did make very good money, I didn't have the positive feelings of self worth or consciousness to be able to feel comfortable with it and so it magically disappeared all the time. It was an addiction.
Today, I totally love what I do for a living,with 10 being the most intense or strongest.. I coach people to move from one place in their life to another place they'd rather be. Usually I'm working with them closely as they grow as a person in all areas of their lives from relationships to work to writing or creating other ways and many other aspects of their lives they begin to look at through their new glasses or more self worth and a higher level of self acceptance. Since watching people grow is my favorite activity, I love every minute of it.
Also, my work allows me to teach. I get to watch my own process to see how I have grown or how I wish to grow. I watch my husband, my kids, my friends. I keep learning and teaching. And I get to write about all of this growth and my observations about it.
And yesterday I noticed something about myself. I have a little trouble just doing nothing. I'm fine if I have an activity scheduled over the weekend but just plain do-nothing time, feels uncomfortable.
Could a symptom of workaholism be feeling guilty if I'm not working even on the weekend and even if I love my work?
Another question I have is are negative aspects catchable from our partners? My husband usually appears to feel a little guilty when he isn't working enough. I think I caught it guilt-for-not-working from him.
Or maybe it was the fact that my mother made a very big deal to my sister and I about how hard and how many hours my father worked to take care of us. This, I believe, was her attempt to control us and keep us from asking for too many material things so she wouldn't feel guilty saying no. Additionally, to give it a double whammy, she bitched at my father without cease about his working all the time how it was his way of running away from his family.
Looking back with adult, non-victimy eyes and from many years distance, I think that my mother's impact is the source of my incipient workaholism. Also, as a kid I think I absorbed the righteousness of working a lot. In a certain way it sounded martyrish and even attractive to "sacrifice for your family". I think I thought if I worked and sacrificed, I'd be admired and appreciated.
Oh, what an awful muddle the past's effects are on us!
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